Finding Sarah, Finds Others…

Lemme first start with a virtual pat on the back to Oprah‘s network, OWN for doing what she intended to bring forth… good TV.  I never had my doubts with Oprah’s Midas touch, so to find her version of reality TV, turned DocuSeries is just another affirmation leading to the Universal Awakening coming this December.

I watched my pre-recorded Finding Sarah: From Royalty to Reality last night and all I could voice over and over, was “Poor, poor Sarah.”  My second thought is “Wow, think of all the people that will relate to her.”

Raw, vulnerable footage displays a picturesque Princess brought down to her worst nightmare… the enemy of self.  Although it boggles me as to how deeply rooted her DNA exposes itself as self-hatred, it frustrates me more that millions will be able to resonate with her and her struggles. Oh yea, I’m frustrated, and if you read the end, my rage carries through…

Where did Sarah say it all stemmed from?  Her adolescence.  12 to be exact.  The age her Mother left her… the age a scar was tattooed on her heart, the year she stuffed all sadness, anxiety, lack of trust and childhood deep within her cells, never to be heard of again until now.

It amazes me how many people will go through life lacking in self-worth only to unconsciously think it’s okay to pass down to their daughters.  What bothers me if even though I love what Sarah Ferguson is all about as she details her every step in self-discovery, I can’t help but want to reach across the TV screen, grab both her shoulders and shake her until she listens to me. Yes me!  I’m no professional counselor (although I’ve been known to help put pieces back together on the occasional broken hearted), but I am an expert when it comes to girls and their self-worth.

Sarah may think that her girls have slid by on her damaged DNA, but I can tell you it’s unlikely they will.  It is undeniable a Mother as broken as Sarah can raise two perfectly healthy, confident young ladies without her toxic leakage spilling over and onto her girls.  I hope in future episodes, Dr. Phil will stop Sarah in her tracks when she dicusses her natural tendencies to belittle herself in front of her daughters and tell her that no matter how confident she thinks her girls are NOW, it is crucial she change her language now, even if she doesn’t believe it… yet.

So if I may re-iterate the thoughts that have been percolating up to near explosiveness…

Moms – Keep. Your.  Mouths.  Shut! I mean c’mon!

I don’t care how confident you think little Jenny is when she’s only 10 years old, has a body of ladder, perfect skin and everything in her life is peachy as she looks forward to playing with dolls.

It doesn’t matter if you are putting yourself down and not her.

What matters is the person she looks up to, the mirror image of her someday is belittling themselves in front of her.  And one day, 10 year old Jenny is going to grow up, become Jen, with a curvy body, breakouts, braces, hormones, and suddenly Jen’s  image will morph its way into the adult face of her mother looking back at her in the mirror.  She’ll have adult issues and burdens, she’ll see the same things her mother saw.

She will have a bad day and label herself the same way her mother did and because the label has been stamped with her Mother’s inheritance, it will ring all the more true to her, that she is what her mother is.  Worthless.

Moms.  Keep quiet.  Keep your silly negative thoughts about you, about anyone to yourself. Keep our girls minds innocent, because Lord knows they will have time to fill it with their own chatter. Why add to their heat.

Sarah, I will continue to watch and cheer you on through your journey. If anything you will be a role model to the millions who resonate with you.

Manifesting the power of Mompreneurs…

The power of manifestation defaults through again and this time it’s comin’ through BIG!

It’s no secret I’ve been holding an internet affair with 5 women for quite some time now.  Five of the most inspiring, “make you feel good all over” women from various parts of the U.S.

Our online affair began over 2 years ago in pursuit to find a deep connection for what we held in common.  A relationship that I cheated on right here in my own back yard and did what I preach to my girls not to do… indulge in internet relationships.

Our common link? Entrepreneurs.  Not just any entrepreneurs, but MOMpreneurs used to CEO’ing households… now turning tricks with our very own companies.

As the turn of Social Media hit an all time high some few years ago, so began our ongoing relationship in support of Women in business.  At first it started as a general thread of common-band, but slowly our support and network grew into a strong friendship, with more Facebook “likes” and ReTweets you can imagine.  Those ReTweets and Facebook follows eventually turned into email chats, skype calls and eventually phone chats bonding us closer and closer together with visions of a grand meeting someday.  Unfortunately with our own self-employed businesses, family, kids, lack of finances and good old fashioned life, it seemed like meeting would be ages away.

Alas we surrendered, and alas the manifesting began with a Universal pull much stronger than us, that decided different.

Our day of glory is finally arriving and as the Social Media guru in me screams “Oh Hail to the Mighty!”, I cannot help but share our amazing feat, devotion and calling to something greater.

Call it stroke of luck or Divine intervention, but out of a long list of possible mommy owned companies that could have come together, to support this benefit, our group was hand-picked, tweaked and fine tuned to miraculously bring only us… together.

MOMpreneurs unite for the very first time to support

STOP Child Trafficking Now.

Join us in supporting this MOMentous and charitable event June 28th, at the infamous Marquee Nightclub, located in New York City from 6-9pm.  For more information on ticket sales and V.I.P. treats, click Here.

BIG thanks to Desiree Frieson at Mahogany Communications, LLC. for her amazing and ongoing force behind bringing this powerful event together.  Mompreneurs include: Ros Guerrero, founder of Ficklets, Sheena Edwards, founder of Lizzie Lou Shoes, Roberta Wagner, founder of Carry Her, Leslie Haywood, founder of Grill Charms, Amy Sapirstein, founder of Mommy Mitten and me, Marianne Impal, founder of The Gift of Confidence by RaeCole.

Watch out NYC, here we come!!!

Media changing Media…

If that’s what it’s gonna take for messages to become clear, it’s Media having to change Media.  What I mean is, those in the Media spotlight are going to have to be the ones to voice the important message of what false Media can do to the immature brain-flex of young kids today.

In highlight of ongoing struggles with bullying, eating disorders, depression and teen suicide just to name a few, it is nice to see Hollywood A-Listers taking a stand together in the solution to this multi-faceted virus infecting many teens today.   As I have written before in “Enough Blaming Media for your Purging Daughter”, it is true that much of what results in the eyes of a teen is reflected from behind closed doors.  What happens in the home… what’s communicated verbally, physically AND energetically is easily dispersed upon our progeny, knowing we can only control a slim portion of such; BUT to have Hollywood’s finest add their two cents into the mix, makes it all the better.

 

But then what?

Yes, bullying has been a problem for years, but now we suddenly have Social Media, Technology and Texting that has succumbed even the weakest link to find strength in bullying electronically and brought it to its full time high.  I’ve heard of Beer-Muscles, but now kids have to deal with Techno-Muscles?  Strength that one only finds from behind the comfort of technology?

I am not a bullying expert, although I have been known to passionately verbalize what I consider to be one small solution for at least the girls.  All I can say is, don’t wait till it’s too late!

Congrats To Ellen and her clan for putting this unified voice together.  It’s nice to know many celebs have had their share of bullying, not fitting in and awkwardness that molded them into the success they are today.  I think it was Mitch from Modern Family who explained to Manny after experiencing the same trauma: “… funny you spend most of your time in school just trying to fit in and when you are an adult, you make every effort to be different.”